If you recognize the 18 triggers, but also feel the following, you may be dealing with an attachment wound, not true desire:

I want to be seen without performing. I want to say “no” and mean it, say “yes” and not regret it by morning. I want to learn the difference between being wanted and being used.

If you’ve stumbled across this term in a forum, a cryptic social media bio, or a late-night chat room, you’ve likely done what most of us do: scratched your head, tried a few searches, and emerged more confused than before. Is it a psychological principle? A hidden feature in a video game? A typo that became a legend?